While there is no magic bullet that guarantees you will have the "perfect day" you imagined; (we bet even Kate Middleton had more than one or two complications on her Big Day); heeding the sage wisdom of those who have gone down the aisle before you can be useful in preparing and preventing some of the unexpected wedding day glitches on your Big Day. We have turned to some of our fabulous couples who have said their vows and celebrated at their reception with their family and friends to hear what they had to say to our engaged couples. We are passing down their advice to you.
Money, Money, Money
"Have a little more cash on you than usual, especially if you are used to charging most of your purchases, just in case you need to send someone to get something at the store or have to tip altar servers and such."
Aaron and Stephanie, wed March 17, 2007
Take Time to Eat
"Be sure to eat with your guests. I would make a pact with your spouse to at least enjoy your meal before getting up to talk with guests. I never thought that I might miss eating my full dinner at our reception, yet suddenly I found myself whisked away, greeting guests before I had a chance to finish. I was thankful and pleasantly surprised that our wedding planner had pre-arranged a meal 'to go' that she handed to us at the end of our reception. It wasn't the same meal as our wedding dinner but it was a nice surprise that my wife and I both appreciated. If possible, I would recommend inquiring about this with your reception hall or caterer in addition to enjoying your full meal before greeting guests."
Raj and Tina, wed June 23, 2012
Preventing Wedding Day Fashion Disasters
"As a groom, it doesn't matter what time of the year it is, if you are having a traditional wedding and reception with lots of guests that will be congratulating you, you will get hot. Pack an extra T-shirt and a pair of socks just in case and choose a tux or suit in a lightweight material."
Kevin (quote) and Amy, wed Nov. 11, 2011
Capture the Moments
"If a professional videographer isn't in your budget, find a relative or friend who wouldn't mind taking the responsibility. "It's a great way to involve a friend or distant relative in your wedding, and you’ll thank them in years to come. So much is going to be happening around you that there’s no way you’ll get to experience it all. We watch parts of our wedding every year on our anniversary. It’s funny how easily you can forget the ‘little things’, some of the friends and family that came, the toasts people gave and even some funny and touching moments that we didn't witness until we saw it on tape. Now our kids even enjoy seeing ‘our wedding’ and hearing the stories that come with it.”
Christian and Kristen, wed June 24, 2000
Take an Extra Day Off After Your Wedding Day
“It gave my wife and I a chance to talk to some of our friends and family that had come in for the wedding from out of town. We were more relaxed and even had a chance to grab a drink with a couple of our close friends that flew in for our wedding and were departing later the following evening and who we knew we would not be seeing again for quite a while."
Ashley and Caden, wed Sept. 18, 2010
“Many vendors will be expecting payment on the day of the wedding. If you have any payments to make, put your payments in envelopes the day before the ceremony. You don’t want to worry about money on your Wedding Day, so it’s best to sort everything out beforehand. Give the envelopes to your best man or someone in your wedding party and let them be responsible for delivering them on the day”.
Eva and Gene, wed Oct. 13, 2013
And in the End it Will all be Worth It
"In spite of the chaotic planning, there will come a point in the day when it all makes sense. When we looked around the room and saw all our guests, friends and family that had come together to celebrate with us, we knew it was worth it. We had no idea how much that would mean to us. It was an overwhelming feeling in a good way.”
Riz and Elysia, wed May 23, 2009
Love and Commitment
"Don't be disappointed if your love for each other changes throughout your marriage. You may even fall in and out of love several times throughout the years ahead. Love is an action that takes commitment and lots of hard work to nurture and grow as you align to the ever-changing yet natural ebb and flow of your lives together. My advise to you is to remember the love you have in your heart for each other in the present moment and rediscover the emotion of love and how it once felt to you when challenges arise within yourself and in your marriage. Commit to find love when it gets lost to the outside world of distractions and responsibilities, commit to discover new, fresh and exciting ways to love your partner and make a commitment today to nurture good habits and routines like implementing weekly date nights that allow a space where each of you can enrich your spirits and deepen your bonds of love in the days, months and years following your wedding."
Cathy and Tom wed October 21, 1972