Plan on keeping the week before your wedding as wide open as possible. Sure, you may still have to go to work, unless you're super lucky and tend to daily responsibilities, but if you can complete all your errands and finalize details a week before your wedding, then you won’t feel flustered in the final days leading up to your Big Day. Of course, last-minute tasks will inevitably pop up, so use the following tips to effectively manage your time—and make time to relax.
Preparing ahead of the game is the first and the most important step to preventing any feelings of being overwhelmed the week of your wedding. From the get-go, ask your wedding planner to compile monthly wedding preparation checklists. The earlier you organize your wedding planning to-do lists, the easier it will be to combat stress and tackle your final wedding tasks as quickly and efficiently as possible. If you didn't start out with a wedding planner and are needing some last minute help. A Day of Coordination service may be perfect for you. Even though it is called "Day of" most Sacramento area wedding planners begin this service a month in advance. Check out The Prosecco for details on Day of Coordination by Obsessed Events.
MAKE A LIST
Start each day in the week leading up to your wedding by making a list of the most critical tasks that must be tackled and rank them in order of importance. Be sure to delegate! Anything that your wedding party or wedding planner can help you with, let them!
“Perfection is the enemy of good,” especially when your to-do list weighs passively on your mind and results in tension. Take a look at your list of items to complete and as hard as it
sounds, cross out any items that can be eliminated. You know, that DIY project that you had your heart set on completing months ago, the project that keeps lingering in your mind and keeps getting pushed aside…ELIMINATE it if it is not required for you and your partner to get married. Even if you think you can fit it into some of your "free time" the week of your wedding, it may be critical to instead save those hours as a buffer to any unexpected items that will arise in the final days of prep or to take a few moments by yourself to relax and defuse.
As simple as the items on your to-do list may seem to handle yourself, consider delegating to someone else you can trust. Look to your relatives and friends who have offered to help out and reach out to them. Whether it’s picking someone up from the airport or dropping off décor at your reception venue, zig-zagging around town can zap precious hours of your time. Running errands is a pretty simple and straightforward task to delegate because it doesn’t require a complicated list of instructions.
Keep in mind that overseeing various tasks you plan to delegate is a job in itself and very important to how effectively your vendors, coordinators, friends and relatives can assist you. Making yourself available to answer the phone and respond to any questions in a timely manner is vital to keeping the flow of planning moving in a positive direction for everyone involved. Diving head first to complete your to-do list all by yourself could make it harder for you to answer the phone, or respond to an email or text without feeling crunched.
Sometimes couples find themselves spending more time talking with their friends, wedding planner, wedding vendors and relatives than their spouse-to-be as the wedding day approaches. Unintentionally turning away from your partner during this time can lead to feelings of disconnect and cause emotional strain. Try to turn to each other often during the week of your wedding by engaging in your everyday, routine forms of communication as much as possible. Whether you normally call at lunch or take a walk in the evenings to talk about your day, try to keep your routine connections the same. Or simply make a point to check in with each other a few times throughout the day. Learning to turn toward each other during busy times is a good habit to start and helps you communicate and lessen any worries as the two of you prepare for your Big Day.
All in all—and as enticing as it is—try to avoid the temptation to handle final preps all by yourself. Even if you don’t normally rely on others and feel uncomfortable asking for help, it may be worth it if it frees up some time for you and your partner during what will undoubtedly be a busy week.